I just returned from the courthouse. Kevin and I had to appear before a judge to terminate our parental rights to Ryan. In Idaho, the woman giving birth to the baby is the legal parent, and her husband is the "presumptive father" even when there is no biological connection. When he was born, Kevin and I, along with Randy, the biological father, all signed a paternity affidavit stating that Randy is the father. This allowed him to be put on the birth certificate. Now, Randy is the only parent, Jill will have to adopt him, as a step-parent adoption. Interesting, huh? Anyway, it is all done and everything is legal.....I guess I cant change my mind now! JUST KIDDING!
One of the questions the judge asks, is how long I have considered giving up my rights to Ryan. It was nice to be able to truthfully answer, "Since before he was conceived." You know this day is coming from the minute you start the journey. It wasn't sad, and believe it or not, I didn't even cry. It is nice to know that the intended parents no longer have to worry that something might go wrong. I am sure most of them are reasonably confident, but I would imagine there could be a tiny little voice somewhere putting doubt in their mind.... Anyway, he is all theirs now, in every sense of the word. My work is officially done!
Here is another pic of Ryan....just 'cuz he is so cute. I will continue to tell the story of his birth, next time. Thanks for checking in!
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Jennifer - although my transfer is is weeks away I understand your statement about the parents "no longer worrying something will go wrong" or "they are reasonably confident but...".
I think it is natural to think " what if's" and at the same time be truly confident in us as the surrogate. Even if the IP's don't reamain in that "what if" state other peopel will think it for them.
Thanks for sharing again. You have great statements and thoughts!
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